True, Unconditional Love

True love must be unconditional, meaning that it is based neither in fear nor in ambition, and is therefore a pure expressions arising from the heart. The implications here are that we are not affraid to speak and to act openly and honestly, even if our actions are not going to be perceived as being supportive and uplifting, and even if this then does mean a separation of sorts, as in the loss of a relationship, or even a job for that matter. And yet realize that the intention behind all acts of unconditional love, whether perceived as being supportive or not, is to uplift the other person and to encourage them to become the epxression of their true purpose within life.

However, people are so incredibly selective in thier perception, that whenever they are told something they do not want to hear or whenever an action is taken which they perceive to be against them in some way, they usually end up feeling hurt, victimized, and hard-done by. Yet such people never realize that they are not their behavior, and therefore that whenever they are confronted, it is not they personally who are being confronted but only their behavior.

by Theun Mares, Shadows of Wolf Fire

Every single action, physical, emotional or mental is dependent upon firstly, MOTIVE, and secondly, CIRCUMSTANCE. Thus to measure action, we must consider whether it is life supportive or life destructive. Sometimes it is hard to know when to defer to the weaker person. A simple rule of thumb . . . we should be sensitive and gracious. While some actions may not be wrong, they may not be in the best interest of others. While we have freedom, we shouldn't exercise our freedom at the cost of hurting another. We are not to consider only ourselves, but we must be sensitive to others ... Do what you will, but harm no one.

Yet if someone is stuck in their view of the world about them and one wants to uplift them, the one has no choice or alternative than to shake them out of the perception which is keeping them stuck. However, in doing so, one's actions are never seen to be supportive, for invariably one is forecd in to having to destroy that person's present perception in one way or another in order to make room for a new view.

Analogy - - - much like now in our information age of computers. Every so often we must run the defragmentation program and wipe disk program to restore the operating efficiency of the computer. The human brain, in very simplistic terms, is much like the computer's hard drive. The years of life are much like writing new computer code onto the hard drive. And every once in a while it becomes necessary to reboot, or even reformat.